When someone attacks you verbally, they are extending their energy or force toward you. The idea when countering is t o take the energy from the opponent and either interrupt it, avoid it, or re-direct it. In this way the force exerted against you fails to have the desired effect. One of the prime ways to do this is to “refuse to engage.” If we are really honest, most of verbal attacks made against us are not worth wasting our time and energy to address and are better off sim

The following excerpts were drawn from my daughter, Sarah Leliani’s essay “Becoming Leilani” that she wrote for her college creative non-fiction class. I chose it because I believe it clearly illustrates the joy to be found in liberating ourselves from anything that might hold us back and truly experiencing life at its fullest. Sarah had made up her mind that she wanted to try surfing, and the opportunity presented itself when she took a trip to Hawaii in order to take her Tu

Bruce Lee’s martial artistry was phenomenal. Lee attained a level in his martial art practice in which he was no longer confined by technique or principle, and his high degree of physical skills and finely tuned awareness gave him the ability to become formless, adapt himself to fit in with any opponent, and ‘flow’ like water in any situation. This high degree of mastery is referred to the “artless” state or the “stage of artlessness.” However, we need to keep in mind that Br

In the film, Enter the Dragon, as Bruce Lee’s character faces off against his opponent, a really tough and brutal man named Ohara, the man tosses a board he has been carrying into the air and smashes it in two with a single punch. Lee maintains his detached cool, looks at Ohara and, with a slight smile, informs him, “Boards don’t hit back.” Immediately afterward, Lee annihilates Ohara in the fight. Unfortunately for Ohara, his attempt to “psych-out” Lee failed miserably. Perh

The phrase “Walk On” was an immensely important in Bruce Lee’s overarching philosophy of living. So important, in fact, that he even had it written on the back of one of his business cards which he displayed on his desk to remind himself to keep moving forward and to flow on in the current of life. For each of us, our life is an ever-flowing process, and that somewhere on the path unpleasant things can and will pop up. The odds that only good things will ever happen to us are

When I was a kid, on the outside back cover of a lot of comic books you would see advertisements proclaiming such things as “I’ll make you into the world’s deadliest fighter in seven days!” or “Defeat any attacker in 10 seconds or less with karate secrets!” Often the guy making such proclamations wore a mask to conceal his face so he couldn’t be recognized for giving away such deadly secrets. If you shelled out your hard-earned allowance to buy the book you’d get some cheap-